Some girls are not even girls, just some guy in another country pretending to be a girl. Some girls are web cam models, hoping to make $5 per minute to do sexy dancing on the web cam. Some girls are students with a financial problems that just want to pay some bills. There are all kinds of people in this world.

The most important thing to remember is to get the girl to show her face on a web cam, and then NEVER EVER send money to a girl you have not met in person. Period.

-Dr. Smile

I will mention two letters YY and if its the same and with a telephone ending with 093, than its the same person be careful as its pure game she plays including on the skype or yahoo chat well as a red flower.

She can disappear for weeks and also come up with rediculous stories. It will be heartbreaking.

I hope its not the same person, but if it is, sad for you too.
Danny

Okay, on to look for free web sites…I found a few, and then settled on focusing on a web site that charges you for one month to collect contact information. This seems reasonable, since I can browse and request info from hundreds of ladies if I wish. I can then send messages via the web site, and they almost always respond. This was very nice, and they seemed fairly genuine.

Well, one lady writes to me and she seems like a really sweet lady. Her thoughts seem very romantic, and after several months she still has not asked for any money, so I’m thinking “Cool. I don’t think I’m being scammed.” One thing is odd, though – I practically beg her to chat online with me more often, but she claims she is too busy to chat except for a very specific time frame on saturday morning. I kinda let it slide and think that “Sure, they don’t know me, and they have a life that doesn’t include me yet”

It gets close to China National Day, and she tells me she has to go on vacation with her parents, but she will write to me if she can. By this time, I’m wishing I could fly to China and meet her, because she seems really nice and has not suggested anything that is disrespectful to me or ask for money or anything, only saying “I will be waiting here for you when you can come”. Very sweet, huh?

Well, she supposedly goes on vacation and I never hear from her again. I do the old WTF for a few weeks, before it becomes clear I will not hear from her again. At this point, I’m glad I didn’t send any presents to her (she gave me a mailing address, and we exchanged contact information, but no telephone numbers)

Now, on to the next…bingo. I finally found someone I can trust. Same web site, and we communicate using skype, yahoo and send texts to each other on phone. We use webcam, so we both know we are talking to who we think we are talking to. Her english is basic, but very charming that she can speak and understand enough. Of course, I am learning Chinese, too. We mostly use translation software, so we can get our thoughts and feelings across, and this is the woman I definitely want to invest time and money and emotional energy into. This is a story I believe will continue for the rest of my life, so far.

Well, you might think this is the end of this entry, but you would be wrong. Recently, I get an e-mail out of the blue from the lady who went on vacation. I notice her english is REALLY bad, and after I get over my anger at having been “dumped” without a word, I try to find out more about what she has been doing. As best as I can determine, SHE was paying a translation agency in China to communicate for her, and this agency cheated her out of money somehow. Apparently, this agency edited the messages, photos and videos I sent to her, so she did not receive some of the messages I sent to her. She says she is very angry at this agency, and that she still likes me very much…

…wow…you can imagine how tragic this is for her, since I am no longer interested in her and if she has indeed spent months waiting for something from this agency then I am really sorry for her. After a little bit of painful communication where I make it clear that I am interested in another woman now and can not be more than pen pals now, I am sure that she is a very nice lady and deserves better than the way this agency seems to have treated her. She is beautiful and would be a good catch for any sincere man. On one level, I am very angry at this agency she used, because of course I have no idea if any of the words in the past are even ones that this lady wrote, and also because they denied her a chance at honest communication with someone she might have been happy with.

It all sounds a bit like a Chinese opera, I know…and maybe someone should post some references to stories like this.

The final moral of the story: it is possible to meet someone this way, but it is VERY HARD. We, as humans, tend to trust others much too easily sometimes. Until you are able to SEE the other person, and HEAR their voice and interact with them as much as possible, despite the distance, there is a high probability that you will be wasting your time. Even if they never ask for money.

Thanks for reading. If any of you all want some insight or a second opinion on how to handle your online communications with someone special, I’d love to help as much as I can. We live in a global society now, with wonderful ways to communicate, but we have to be very selective and careful about how we do it.

- No Games

This rule applies to all situation, no matter how pretty or convincing the girl is. There are professional scammers that know exactly what to say to trigger love-sick foreigners to send money overseas. DO NOT FALL FOR THIS SCAM.

-Nils (Dr.Smile)